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Convictor and Connector

A wife can say things to her husband that no one else can say.

One of these roles is as convictor. Convicting is not condemnation. Conviction is kindly telling a person, "Hey, you are wrong." And let's face it: women are pretty good at that. You might laugh, but I'm serious. A wife can say things to her husband—necessary things, things that he needs to change—that no one else can say.

They are good at it, and as husbands we need to listen when they convict us about something.

A second role that a wife may also demonstrate is that of connector. Women are natural connectors because they connect men to their children. This is one of the natural things women do. They remind us to spend more time with the kids, or make sure we know when we've hurt our kids' feelings or when we need to have a talk with one of our children.

Our wives are intuitive about those things, while husbands often are not. We need their input to keep us tuned in.

Women will also connect us to our own feelings. Early in our marriage, Karen would always ask me how I felt about certain things. I would always respond the same way. "I do not feel," I would tell her, "and I don't want you to talk to me about my feelings." Talking about feelings made me really nervous.

But she knew. She knew that I'd been hurt about certain things that I wouldn't talk about. Women have incredible intuition and relational wisdom. I have learned to listen to Karen's voice in our marriage. As convictor and connector, she continues to impact our relationship and make me a better person.

Every great wife can play that role in your marriage, too, if you'll listen.